Perhaps you hadn't realized that you even could be a boy. Maybe you don't feel like one quite yet. Or maybe you even feel like you're not good enough to be a boy.
Don't worry about it too much! It is natural to have reservations about this. Here are some frequent newbie objections you may have:
But I don’t feel like a man!
That’s OK, and it doesn’t change the fact that you could be a man inside. It’s totally normal not to feel like a man all the time. If you feel depressed or anxious because you don’t feel like a man but you wish you did, that feeling is called gender dysphoria, and we have some resources to help you manage this feeling below.
But just because I want to be a man doesn’t mean that I actually can be one!
As a fundamental truth, we hold that only you can truly know what your gender is, and what it means to you. Other people can assume based on their standards, but you hold the final say on your own gender. This means that nobody but you can truly determine whether you’re a man, a woman, or anything else. If there’s any part of you that wants to be a man, that could mean that you’re not comfortable with the gender you were assigned at birth. Please take a while to sit with that feeling and learn what it’s trying to tell you. Be what you wish you could be.
But I’m too old to be a man!
Nobody’s too old to transition into a man’s life. People at the ages of 8, 28, and 80 have transitioned to live successful, fulfilling lives as men. The best time to start would have been when you were younger, but the second best time is today. You owe this to yourself no matter where and when you start from.
But else nobody will ever see me as a man! I’ll never pass!
Looking like a man according to society's standards is a skill that you can learn and practice. You’ll get better at learning what works for you and what doesn’t. Until you get the hang of it, focus on yourself! Just start with what makes you feel comfortable. Presenting masculine is hard even for cis men to learn!
But I don’t have the right to be a man!
Everyone has the right to live as the gender that makes them the happiest in terms of roles / expressions in society. There’s no inherent value toward being male, just as there’s no inherent value in being female. The only person who benefits or is harmed by living as a man is you, so please don’t let yourself live as a martyr for society’s sake. We just want you to feel comfortable in your own skin. There’s nothing wrong with that.
I don’t know if I want to be a man or if I just don’t want to be a woman!
That’s totally fine. Maybe you might not be sure whether you’re drawn toward masculinity, or if you just want to avoid femininity. You don’t have to have all the answers yet. Just guide yourself toward whatever helps you feel more comfortable. If you find yourself feeling alienated by femininity but not necessarily attracted to masculinity, you could be non binary or gender nonconforming. That’s totally okay! This particular page centers the experiences of binary trans men, but you’re valid no matter how you identify. Maybe your answer might even change later as you come to understand yourself a little better.
This is so stupid! What difference could a game on a website make?
You’re right. We can’t magically alter your body or your memories over the Internet. But that’s not the point. We can’t make you wish you were a man, but we can help you re-discover any pre-existing wish if you have one, and we can give you some advice to help you connect with that wish and nurture it if you want. Your wish to be a man is what matters in the end. Not some silly website game.